Friendship

Today is the Friendship's Day and well I can't help but think about the fact that friends play a big part in our life. Friends, it is said, make life beautiful. But, let's not get carried away, this blog is about Wheels To Success, and with that in mind, always remember, no one can live in isolation, we're social animals and can't survive without collusive togetherness. In social aspects, we’re judged by the company we keep. And all in all, Friends are an important sphere of existence.

Friendship As A Wheel

I know it may sound horrific but no relation exists without mutual benefits. If someone is your friend, that means they see you as an asset. It may be a terrible analysis, but it is true nonetheless. Now, when I say benefits, it does not mean financial benefits only, benefits may be in all forms, sometimes illusory as well but regardless, you cannot pest up to someone who does not want you.

Friendship I believe is not a wheel but force that pushes you forward when your cart is stuck in a rut and you’re rendered hopeless. It is said that friendship is a ship that sails when all else fails. It is important for you to keep good friends and be a true friend as well.

Making Quality Friendship

1.     Lower Your Expectations: Friendship does not mean you own the other person, or that the other person has to act a certain way just because they are your friend, the low you’ll expect the lower will be the times you’ll get disappointed and the lower will be the sourness in the relation

2.     Make Friends With Those On Your Stature: Now this may seem difficult, but it is necessary. It is said that, “A foolish friend is worse than a smart enemy”. Make friends with people who share your interests, think like you and the presence of whom will enhance your existence.

3.     Don’t Make Friendship Difficult: No one will choose you over themselves, this is a fact, make friends with people who’ll procrastinate such a choice as far as possible, also, be the kind of friend who does not make them fall into situations that require such choices.

4.     Bring Up Solutions, Not Problems: Everyone has his own problems, and it is said sharing things reduces the pain, but it may only reduce yours, and increase that of others, Bring solutions. It may seem like an awful thing to say when we feel friends are there to support us, but you cannot always bank upon it, make them not have to support you all the time, everyone gets tired and they may not be consciously thinking it but sub-consciously they’ll build upon this track and may later break out on small triggers.

5.     Be a Friend: It may seem overly obvious but be the kind of friend you want to have. Think of what you’re saying or doing from other person’s point of view and how you’d like it if that happened to you. Friendship shouldn't be a power struggle; you should not seek to have the upper hand. It may feel obvious, like I said, but we don’t follow the most obvious things we should.

6.      Don’t Test Friendships: Don’t try to let your friends run loose thinking that they’re truly your friends if they come back when you let them go, If you've abandoned them, then you yourself have no right to test if they come back. Friendship is a mutual relation, if you try to test it, you yourself may be failing and you’ll push them farther.

I read these lines somewhere, “It’s been said that everlasting friends go long periods of time without speaking and never question their friendship. These friends pick up phones like they just spoke yesterday, regardless of how long it has been or how far away they live, and they don’t hold grudges. They understand that life is busy and you will always love them.”